5 SECRETS HACKS TO A BROKEN HEART

According to neuroscientist Loretta Bruening: “Love stimulates all of your happy chemicals at once. That’s why it feels so good.” But just when you cherish every moment with someone, you’ll realize how the words “I love you” run dry and turn into “It’s over”, eventually making your world turn upside down.

Being heartbroken feels like riding a canoe without a paddle. You can’t move forward and you can’t perceive what to do anymore, you’ll be stuck in wherever he or she left you.

I first-handedly witnessed people go through heartbreak. Being friends for so long, I witnessed them enter relationships’ to how they got a face like a wet weekend and how their hearts sank when it’s ended. However, I also saw how they got over with it then be on cloud nine again.

It’s now time to step up and move on. Listed below are the course of actions on how to mend a broken heart.

1. Reconnect

A wealthy and wise King in the Bible, King Solomon said: “Two are better than one, for if either of them falls, one can help the other up “. Having a shoulder to cry on and someone you can talk to about what you are going through can really help you a lot in the process of moving on. Do fun things with them. For instance, when my friend broke up with her boyfriend, the first thing she did was to request all of us to be with her.

2. Sing along to the song Imahe

“Kinalimutan kahit nahihirapan, para sa sariling kapakanan’

A 2013 study published in the Journal of Consumer Research found that people felt better when they listened to songs that matched their moods. We, humans, have this habit of wanting something when it’s obviously impossible. Fully accepting that it’s over even it hurts a lot is a way to see the right road meant for you to take in order to heal. “To fully heal when our heart is broken, we have to look in the mirror (metaphorically and perhaps literally) and tell ourselves it’s time to let go”, Dr. Guy Winch said, a psychologist and author of the book How to fix a broken heart?

3. Be as busy as a bee

When you are single and alone, you have lots of free time. Instead of being down on the dumps inside your room, go out and do the stuff that you love. Discover your passion. It can be reading books, writing, dancing, singing, exercising, watching your favorite movies or focusing on your study. Start working instead of worrying.

4. Ready, Set, Go!

Being caught on a breakup does not mean you’ll never find love again. According to Dr. Guy Winch, to predict healthier and quicker adjustment to heartbreak, one has to or may find a new partner. Always think that you deserve more and don’t settle with people who left you. Doing so can boost your confidence but you must learn how to trust again first. Trust is the key to see the green light to a new and future partnership.

5. Talk to Him

When I’m chatting with my friend last night, I remembered asking her how she moved forward from her three-year relationship. She then said, “Praying at all times and talking to God”. Telling God everything that hurts you and how broken your heart is will help heal every wound you feel. “He heals the broken hearts indeed. He made me whole once again” my friend added.

Recalling a line from the book To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before: P.S. I Still Love You by Jenny Han which instilled in my mind after reading it, “Things feel like they’ll be forever, but they aren’t. Love can go away or people can without even meaning to. Nothing is guaranteed.” This gives me the idea that there is some love that never lasts. A breakup may make your heart miss a beat or two and it may be the worst thing you will experience when you’re in a relationship but you need to learn to deal with it.